Tuesday, April 20, 2021

We Get By With A Little Help From Our Friends

Our little neighborhood has become a sweet, loving community. We are enjoying these friendships in a way we never have before.

That being said, it has been an enlightening and interesting experience to walk side by side with our neighbors R & S as their adult child transforms from the daughter they gave birth to, to the person they have become. We’ve learned together to honor their request of going from Julie to Lance. Watching R&S with their need to acknowledge both their love and their grief. When referring to the past, when Lance was a child, they were a little girl. That can’t be ignored. It doesn’t disappear because the narrative has changed. We, including them, slip or forget but we help each other to embrace imperfectly. It’s a wondrous walk of unconditional love on their part and good friendship on ours. 

Love and acceptance are something everyone wants, at least to some degree. There is a little more love and acceptance on this street of ours and I like it......a lot.



9 comments:

  1. my neighbor's daughter has come out as non-binary. she has chosen a gender-neutral name for herself. and she will be OK.

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  2. I'm glad to hear that Lance is receiving love and support from their parents and friends like you!

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  3. That is the best description of truly kind and loving neighbors. Walking together acknowledging the sadness and the unconditional love.

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  4. You are fortunate to live in such a neighbourhood.

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  5. That's good that Lance is surrounded by people who love him. It's nice to know there are still caring and loving humans around.

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  6. When you love a child, you must love all of the child, even the changes. R&S sound like wonderful parents.

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