Not just the kids though, there will be an additional guest. The Secret Keeper (my ex) will be there too. When I share that, I'm not able to impart the astonishment I feel about that fact. You see, when the break up happened it was with some very unfortunate circumstances. If we look at the behaviors prior to the downfall, like lying, cheating, prostitution, stealing, drug use, and did I mention lying, you would think I would never be in the same room with that man again. I would think I would never be in the same room with that man again.
But four amazing, forgiving kids, a strong desire to not carry anger for the rest of my life, an ACA and Al-Anon program, a blog to process my progress and the development of a modicum of empathy has brought this strange dinner party to our house.
This man, living in a sober living house, has nowhere to be with his kids for the holidays. He is broken and struggling to stay clean. And while it's not my first choice, it is the right choice to facilitate this family holiday.
I am glad my kids love their father with some decent boundaries and, also, that he was once a devoted, engaged dad so that they have good memories and can still see that man through the person he is now.
I am lucky that the Boy Scout is confident and has a heart for the mess that mental illness and drug addiction wreaked on a man who is lost.
I am grateful.