It can be hard to put my whole self out there. It can be hard to know who I am in some situations. When someone from the past asks about child #3, they will say things like, How is Prescott doing? How’s he liking England or Portland or his work etc. When that happens now, because everyone important or close has been told, I have to dig deep. Who am I in this situation? Do I just say, “SHE”, and go on with the conversation as if it is nothing big? It is big! Do I smile wide and say “oh, she’s in the process of transitioning”, without going into anything else. Do I let them ask questions? Do I know how to answer? This is her personal journey. I am a bystander, a caring one, but bystander just the same. Do I avoid the subject completely and just be careful with pronouns so that I am not disloyal. If I am avoiding, am I being disloyal? Maybe they haven’t earned the right to hear her story. There is a protective defensiveness that I have to be aware of too. My feelings are still comple...
Welcome back from Paris! Traveling with someone is HARD, that's for sure.
ReplyDeleteyou survived, you didn't kill each other. traveling IS stressful.
ReplyDeleteI was tempted once or twice!!!
DeleteWelcome back from your Paris trip. Hope you had a grand time, traveling can have its challenges too.
ReplyDeleteThanks Bill. It was better than I imagined.
DeleteFear can be such a hard one to work through. But you did it! I am so proud of you, Linda.
ReplyDeleteThank you my friend.
DeleteWelcome back from the trip! There are always ups and downs where travel is involved.
ReplyDeleteThanks Martha. Good to be home.
DeleteI wrote on my blog once about traveling with someone. I told my step daughter she had to be with this man for 4 seasons, travel with him, build something together. If you can get through that and communicate you can do anything! She laughed at me until she took a trip with this horrible boy she was dating. They did not travel well together and it opened her eyes. Now we laugh about my silly little piece of advice to her because she saw it at work. So you had some bumps but you were able to make it through. How wonderful Linda! I hope you had a marvelous vacation, welcome home!
ReplyDeleteThat's hilarious! So good to be home....I was ready.
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