Private Eye
We pass by the house frequently since it sits on a busy thoroughfare. We know to look every time we pass and guess what will we see. Will it be the two Dalmatians, sitting on the couch that backs up to the giant panel window, waiting for their human to come home? Or will it be their human, sitting slightly to the right of middle (allowing for a better view of the giant mounted tv across the room) of the said couch. They are never there at the same time. It’s one or the other. One sleepless night, when my body was willing but my brain was not, I did a little sleuthing. It’s amazing what you can find out about a complete stranger. His name is Gary and, from what I can tell, he’s never been married. He has worked his way up in a air duct company. He’s now the senior VP but it’s a small company and he still goes out on jobs, judging from the reviews on Yelp. I know he has two siblings and that their father passed away in 2018. His memorial was held in a Buddhist temple and Gary sr. soun
I text friends, knit, watch my fave movies on dvd/youtube, play music, pet the cats.
ReplyDeleteI don’t often feel lonely. I remember after my mother died I felt lonely though.
ReplyDeleteWalking helped me. Around the neighbourhood I met people and spoke with them. It lifted my spirits and took away the loneliness. Still today, a walk and a chat are good for my spirit.
I'm so lonely that I ache with it. I don't know that I do anything about it. Nothing I suppose. I read a lot of books. I read blogs or get on Instagram and scroll through pictures. Grandkids help somewhat when they are here. I'm lonely for female friendships..going out for coffee or shopping together, someone I can share my heart with. I'd also like to have couples friends... a couple to go out to dinner with or maybe go to each others homes for a backyard BBQ. Truly I don't know where to find people like this.
ReplyDeleteI got lonely in 1987 when I first lived away from everyone I knew. I joined clubs etc but nothing helped. Then I saw a counselor, that helped.
ReplyDeleteBut now, I wouldn't mind a few lonely days, or at the very least being alone days. I live with my best friend in the world whom I adore, but honestly there are days I wish he'd go away for a bit. The hazards of working with your mate!!
Sometimes when I'm at the lake and Rick isn't, I get a little lonely -- and then I either paint or do a road trip or get on the phone to a friend, my cousin, or even Rick. I'm an "only" and I do solitude pretty well but sometimes you just want to be with someone.
ReplyDeleteI volunteer as a moderator for a progressive political FB secret group with 9,500 members (Action Together Florida). I work closely with the other mods/admins across this large state and it helps me feel connected to a larger like-minded group. I get no money for it, but I do get a sense of community. As a retiree who has moved from the a reliably Blue state (New York) to a crazy, wild, and wooly Swing State (Florida), I need community most of all. Plus, it makes me feel like I am contributing. And it is fun.
ReplyDeleteI keep busy. Doing art or photography keeps my very focused and I don't think about anything else. Reading books is good for that, too.
ReplyDeleteI am lonely. All the time. I try not to think about it because I’m afraid it will sink me.
ReplyDeleteAs an introvert, I don't get lonely very often because I am my own favourite company. But in the past I have had periods of loneliness and yes, it's like a knife in your guts. My solution was/is always to get out and get involved in some group or activity with other people. Meeting new people will sooner or later result in new friends and acquaintances who will be interested in you, I find.
ReplyDeleteJust found your blog. The short answer is that I like living alone and am a homebody..I have the top level of a house and a sibling has the bottom but she works two jobs by choice and it's mainly me and the canines.ive been fortunate to find a weekly knitting group and church group that force me out of the house but I would live to find a woman's lunch or exercise group
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