Freedom and Forgiveness

I changed my blog sub-title.

 It was "Finding dynamic forgiveness and a healthy spirit in the face of betrayal and addiction."   That no longer really applies. I am still working on forgiveness but much more for myself than anyone else. I have forgiven the Secret Keeper 100%. I recognize who he was and who he became was caused by a horrible illness in the brain that I cannot fully comprehend. I understand now that he did not purposefully betray me, it was NOT personal. He did what he had to do to survive. It wasn't pretty but me adding to his shame will not help either of us. I will continue to try to do no harm.

 Forgiving is an incredible freedom. I highly recommend it.

Comments

  1. Marie SmithJanuary 6, 2018 at 5:00 AM

    Such an inspiring post, Linda. Thank you!

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  2. JeanieJanuary 6, 2018 at 6:05 AM

    I have long believed that forgiveness is the real key to emotional freedom and contentment. I'm so glad you have found that liberation both for your mind and your heart. Beautiful post.

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  3. JonoJanuary 6, 2018 at 7:18 AM

    Forgiveness really is freedom, isn't it?

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  4. ColetteJanuary 6, 2018 at 7:35 AM

    Bravo!

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  5. MarthaJanuary 6, 2018 at 7:38 AM

    You are doing great, Linda. Forgiveness is not easy, but it is very liberating.

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  6. Debra She Who SeeksJanuary 6, 2018 at 9:27 AM

    Your new subtitle is great!

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  7. ToniJanuary 6, 2018 at 11:31 AM

    Inspiring! Kudos to you!

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  8. JenniferJanuary 6, 2018 at 12:30 PM

    Good for you! May you have a peaceful and happy new year!

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  9. BirdieJanuary 6, 2018 at 1:52 PM

    So true. My biological father, one of the alcoholics in my life, was not a good father and incredibly abusive. Seeing him as a broken and vulnerable human was what helped me forgive. He did his best, as did I with my kids. He’s 73 now now and lonely and needs someone to love him. I no longer “need” him to love me but her needs me to love him.

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    1. Linda dJanuary 6, 2018 at 2:53 PM

      I didn’t know that you still had contact with him.

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    2. BirdieJanuary 6, 2018 at 8:51 PM

      He lives a few minutes away and is married to a lovely woman. My brother doesn’t want anything to do with him. I don’t know how much I would see him if it wasn’t for his wife. It’s easier now because he can’t drink like he used to so visits are a lot more predictable.

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  10. SabineJanuary 6, 2018 at 3:25 PM

    Moving and inspiring. Thank you.

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  11. bailiJanuary 8, 2018 at 4:27 AM

    what an inspiring way of thinking dear Linda!!!

    i respect and adore you for this enlightened change and say well come to you towards positive and peaceful path of faith and strength

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  12. Margaret (Peggy or Peg too)January 8, 2018 at 5:38 AM

    Excellent. Glad you found your way there.
    :-)

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  13. BrittaJanuary 8, 2018 at 12:32 PM

    A good decision, Linda!

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