Put A Cork In It, Would you?

I have a physical and emotional reaction to the smell of alcohol on a person's breath. I have an "out of control" feeling when I think someone is drinking too much. It doesn't have to be the person I am with, it can be the person 5 feet away that I will never meet.

It's not a good thing when it is the person I am with. I am getting better at recognizing that feeling and wrestling it under control before things get really ugly. Not every time and not as early as I would like. The fight or flight takes over and I can do both in a very grand fashion.

I love the child in me that feels scared and screams out for a person she can rely on but I dislike when she takes over and makes herself and everyone around her miserable. My counselor has told me I am suppose to remind her that I (yes, me, myself and I) will take care of her but I don't always remember that in time.

I keep trying♥

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  1. Marie SmithNovember 10, 2017 at 8:15 AM

    Recognition is half the battle. Don't beat yourself up, slow and steady, slow and steady!

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  2. Margaret (Peggy or Peg too)November 10, 2017 at 11:13 AM

    Something obviously happened to make you feel that way and while I may be unaware of it, I think the fact that you are aware of what you are doing and feeling is only a positive!

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    1. Linda dNovember 10, 2017 at 7:26 PM

      I agree. You don’t know what you don’t know.

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  3. JonoNovember 10, 2017 at 1:26 PM

    Just keep trying. The best you can do is the best you can do and that is good enough.

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  4. BirdieNovember 10, 2017 at 1:55 PM

    Being raised by an alcoholic I understand the fear. I think you are right about the fight or flight response. Don’t forget the freeze response, which is what I do.
    In Mindfulness we practice the act of just being mindful of what it happening in our bodies. I don’t need to do anything to change the experience, just notice. It is so often scary or terrifying but since I have been just being aware I feel less out of control. Note I didn’t say in control. Just less out of control. I think the issues will always be there and I have to learn to live with them the best I can.

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  5. Silver in AZNovember 11, 2017 at 5:31 PM

    I do am an Adult Child of an Alcoholic. I get it.

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  6. ColetteNovember 12, 2017 at 7:04 AM

    I am also an Adult Child of an Alcoholic. I get it, too.

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