I would like your input on this letter I am considering sending out.
Knowing that honesty is generally the best policy....let me have it!
I once considered you, if not a friend, a very friendly acquaintance.
Our daughters are the same age. I am sure that your daughter is as special to you as mine is to me. McKenna is 21 years old and starting out her life with some tough situations. SHE IS NOT AN OBJECT. She is a person who has her ups and downs, her struggles and triumphs. She has, in the past year, completely alone, had to make scary medical decisions for her mentally ill, addicted father. She has had to watch as the man who was an amazing father slowly turn into a shell of a man who has little to give and much to take. Whether purposefully or accidentally, you have added to her already difficult year.
I wonder…would you appreciate my ex-husband leering and making inappropriate comments to your daughter over the course of a long evening? Think about that for a moment! What were you hoping to achieve with your behavior? Whether it be an aging former neighbor or a kid next door, would you like for Ashely to feel powerless or even frightened?
The night of that Halloween party both McKenna and her friend were disgusted by your behavior and the only reasons she did not say anything is; 1. It would have been incredibly uncomfortable for everyone concerned and; 2. It might have been hurtful to Annie. Did you give the situation that much thought? Perhaps you and Annie have an agreement but, if so, I would urge you to approach the entire issue as an adult and ascertain whether the object of your attention has any interest, what-so-ever, before proceeding with your predatory behaviors. Perhaps then it would be construed (although I cannot imagine how) as flirting. After all that has gone on in the news, have you learned nothing?
I am disappointed that I had to write this, especially to someone I have always considered to be an upstanding person and a good example of a Christian man. While this was difficult to write, I felt it necessary to do so. I hope that you are simply unaware of how your behavior was received and with new knowledge will not behave in this manner again. I am not perfect and I hope that others feel like they can speak to me when my behavior is wrong. This is one way the world becomes a better place.
You owe my daughter an apology, you probably owe your wife an apology and you certainly owe Trevor, Ashely, your future grandchildren and women in general, a better human being.