An Email A Day

I have worked painstakingly over the last three years tried to change my default thought process from negative to positive, from discontented to peaceful, from worry to grateful. I have made vast strides with frequent dips back the other direction but I am pretty pleased. How many people can say that they have even made a dent in changing their base personality? Failing often but overall  doing better and better.

 One of the things I do that has helped me is to try to start my day off right.  I attempt to wake with the thoughts of what I am grateful for today and I check in first thing with a daily Word For The Day email that reminds me there is more than one way to look at things. 

 Catastrophizing is something I am very good at. These days I may share concerns and I may have a knot in my stomach but I also know that most things seem to work out OK and it is a waste of my precious hours on this planet thinking about the worst that can happen rather than the possibilities for growth and change. 

 It's a lot of work but well worth the effort.



Comments

  1. Debra She Who SeeksOctober 24, 2017 at 8:41 AM

    Time spent on self-improvement is always time well spent. I applaud you!

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  2. Marie SmithOctober 24, 2017 at 9:03 AM

    And such a happier way to live. Have a great day!

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  3. anne marie in phillyOctober 24, 2017 at 10:27 AM

    I am always grateful when I wake up breathing in the morning.

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    1. Linda dOctober 24, 2017 at 10:28 AM

      I wish it were that simple for me....one day.

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  4. Margaret (Peggy or Peg too)October 24, 2017 at 12:55 PM

    I am new to your blog so I am assuming this was something large to make you make these changes. I applaud you for doing the work. Some are too lazy and would prefer to just complain but you are walking the walk Linda and that is damn impressive!! I wish you all good things my blogger friend.

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  5. MarthaOctober 24, 2017 at 5:49 PM

    It is definitely worth the effort. Bravo to you!

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