I'm So Happy I Could.......

Yesterday, while walking through the office, I encountered a sweet little gal who is a very positive person. We exchanged our normal greetings and then she inquired, "On a scale of 1 to 10, what is your happy number?"  Good question!

I got to consider it for a second, doing an inner assessment. The answer came easy. "I have to make that a daily choice. It's not my default to feel content, quite the opposite. So I choose to be happy today.....I'd give me a 9."  "How about you?", I asked. Ashley gave herself a 7. She said it would be higher but that she and her husband were in the process of moving and it was adding a bit of stress to their lives. Seven is not bad, especially while moving. I know things are not perfect for her, she has some real heartaches. She chooses.

I have another gal in my life who is a perennial victim. I don't judge her for it. I recognize that she has had a difficult life but I also see that it how she relates to the world and the people in it. She accepts all the accolades for her incredible strength but if you ask her about her well being you always get the deep breath and a, "I am hanging in there, trusting God and knowing it will get better." This seems to be how she copes. I hope someday she sees there is a better way to go at it.

I sit somewhere in between Ashley and the other gal but I am on a forward motion. Forward feels better and better.

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  1. ToniAugust 1, 2017 at 12:22 PM

    Interesting question. I will definitely be examining my thoughts through the day.

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    1. ToniAugust 3, 2017 at 10:15 AM

      Examined, as promised. Realized that 'happy' isn't a concept I think of often. It holds a bit of a Hallmark-card, skipping down the garden path with a basket of daisies feel. Seems to belong to birthdays, Easter, and, of course, Mother's Day.

      I realized that I'm more of a Contentment type of gal. Rating how content I am on a scale of 1 to 10, Not thinking about he occasional blips of 2 or 3, I think I run about an 8.5. The little gap between that and 10 just gives me room for seeking out new experiences and personal growth.

      To me, Happy is a fleeting emotion, too susceptible to the actions/inactions of others.

      Contentment seems more a lifestyle and wholly up to me.

      Thanks for the inspiration!

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    2. Linda dAugust 3, 2017 at 10:26 AM

      I get that. I think that I would agree with you. To me an overall contentment is the actual goal but I never thought of it that way. Not because bad days or sadness scares me (I can cope) but because I am the type to default discontent. Thanks for sharing.

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  2. Marie SmithAugust 1, 2017 at 12:48 PM

    Forward is good. Keep going!

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  3. MarthaAugust 2, 2017 at 4:56 PM

    I never thought about putting happiness on a scale and that is really interesting. I'm going to ask myself that each day and see what answer I give. I guess being above a 5 wouldn't be bad.

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    1. Linda dAugust 3, 2017 at 6:39 AM

      Above average is always something to be grateful for but average happiness is not bad either.

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