Portland and Back Again!

Back in good old Southern California. We had a wonderful time with family and extended family.

 The weather in Portland was AMAZING and we got out and about to lovely restaurants, fun sightseeing and shopping.

 My boy.....graduated summa cum laude from his university. He
will be staying in Portland for the time being and it's all good. He is building a life there and I am building my life here but our love and mutual admiration is strong and the connection will remain tight.

 We had a wonderful conversation about a book that we both happened to read called Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol S. Dweck.  The following is short description of the book:

 After decades of research, world-renowned Stanford University psychologist Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D., discovered a simple but groundbreaking idea: the power of mindset. In this brilliant book, she shows how success in school, work, sports, the arts, and almost every area of human endeavor can be dramatically influenced by how we think about our talents and abilities. People with a fixed mindset—those who believe that abilities are fixed—are less likely to flourish than those with a growth mindset—those who believe that abilities can be developed. Mindset reveals how great parents, teachers, managers, and athletes can put this idea to use to foster outstanding accomplishment.

 We agreed that it had a tremendous impact on us both and has led to a new way of thinking about our failures and trials. I love watching my kids continue to grow emotionally....it's exciting to watch and it encourages me and my attempts to continue on my walk to emotional health.

 The Boy Scout had his first experience travelling with my family...he did a fine job. Lots of personalities and the stress of accommodating everyone's timetables and food quirks can be difficult but, for the most part, he's an easy going guy and pulled it off pretty darn good. Plus he made a great meal for a big group in another persons kitchen....kudos to him.  

Comments

  1. Debra She Who SeeksMay 23, 2017 at 10:40 AM

    Congrats to your son on his graduation! Wishing him every success in the world!

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  2. MarthaMay 23, 2017 at 2:21 PM

    Wonderful! Congratulations to your son. Wishing him continued success.

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  3. BirdieMay 24, 2017 at 5:33 PM

    Congratulations to you and your son!

    That mindset quote. Interesting. I am going to have to think more about that.

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