Let It Begin With Me

I love the idea of a relationship being a safe haven. It is only an idea to me at this point because I am not nearly trusting enough find that in anyone anymore and I am aware enough to know that I too have to be a safe haven to the partner in my life in order to have that in return.

 In some ways I am a safe haven. I am reliable, honest, extremely loyal and Jiminy Cricket keeps me on the straight and narrow but I am explosive in my fear and anger and that is never good.

 I need to be the safe person I desire my partner to be.

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  1. John Going GentlyMay 26, 2017 at 2:51 PM

    It should be safe..but humans are soo human......expectations have to be tempered in my experience xx

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    1. Linda dMay 26, 2017 at 7:09 PM

      Expectations are the root of many an evil. I've only learned that recently though. Who knew? I thought it was normal to expect certain things but, alas, I was wrong.

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  2. LollyMay 26, 2017 at 4:11 PM

    HE needs to be the safe person YOU desire him to be too. No judgement...just sayin'. Love you friend.

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    1. Linda dMay 26, 2017 at 7:11 PM

      Do you have that Lolly? I cannot fathom being able to trust that way. I know what I want but I think John is right. Expectations must be tempered

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  3. BirdieMay 26, 2017 at 5:39 PM

    We are all learning. And it takes work. I think you are likely too hard on yourself though. Most of us are. If you find a way not to be, let me know.

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  4. BirdieMay 26, 2017 at 5:40 PM

    Oops. I hit publish too soon. I was going to say if you find a way not to be hard on yourself let me know because I am so hard on myself. I think if we could figure out a way not to be we would be rich. Spiritually and monetarily. Can those two go together?

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    1. Linda dMay 26, 2017 at 7:12 PM

      I am learning to be ok with where I am in my progress but it's work every single day.

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