It's the job of each person to take their life lessons and turn them into good. I was failing at that for a little while. Being angry prevents froward movement. Forgiveness for myself and for others was the key to getting rid of the anger and getting on with a more healthy, happy life. The fourth and fifth step, a fearless moral inventory shared with God and another human being, was the catalyst for the forgiveness. If your struggling, consider it. Keep an open mind and give it a try.
Another part of the healing is learning to stop playing mind and word games to achieve the ultimate goal - Feeling OK. Learning to be able to recognize and express how I am feeling has been invaluable. Hurting doesn't have to turn to rage (although, unfortunately, it still does at times). Fear shouldn't end up in an argument over something unrelated.
Being able to say what I mean and mean what I say makes a big difference in my daily walk.
This morning at the golf course was wonderful. Lady friends, all walking our walk with as much grace as we can muster, sharing a cool morning with the egrets, herons and coyotes and sharing our life struggles. Boosting each other up in a lovely way...with understanding that we've all, in one way or another, have been there before.
Hope your day is awesome, without anger and hurt, and with someone you love.