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Monday, August 3, 2015
Be Still, Be Present
I love this!!! It's time to be, not time to do. A worthy and lofty goal.
You don’t know me but I hear you are going through a tough time, and I would
like to help you. I want to be open and honest with you, and let you know that
happiness isn’t something just afforded to a special few. It can be yours, if
you take the time to let it grow.
It’s OK to be stressed,
scared and sad, I certainly have been throughout my 65 years. I’ve confronted
my biggest fears time and time again. I’ve cheated death on many adventures,
seen loved ones pass away, failed in business, minced my words in front of
tough audiences, and had my heart broken.
I know I’m fortunate to live
an extraordinary life, and that most people would assume my business success,
and the wealth that comes with it, have brought me happiness. But they haven’t;
in fact it’s the reverse. I am successful, wealthy and connected because I am
So many people get caught up
in doing what they think will make them happy but, in my opinion, this is where
they fail. Happiness is not about doing, it’s about being. In order to be
happy, you need to think consciously about it. Don’t forget the to-do list, but
remember to write a to-be list too.
Kids are often asked: ‘What
do you want to be when you grow up?’ The world expects grandiose aspirations:
‘I want to be a writer, a doctor, the prime minister.’ They’re told: go to
school, go to college, get a job, get married, and then you’ll be happy. But
that’s all about doing, not being – and while doing will bring you moments of
joy, it won’t necessarily reward you with lasting happiness.
Stop and breathe. Be healthy.
Be around your friends and family. Be there for someone, and let someone be
there for you. Be bold. Just be for a minute.
If you allow yourself to be
in the moment, and appreciate the moment, happiness will follow. I speak from
experience. We’ve built a business empire, joined conversations about the
future of our planet, attended many memorable parties and met many
unforgettable people. And while these things have brought me great joy, it’s
the moments that I stopped just to be, rather than do, that have given me true
happiness. Why? Because allowing yourself just to be, puts things into
perspective. Try it. Be still. Be present.
For me, it’s watching the
flamingos fly across Necker Island at dusk. It’s holding my new grandchildren’s
tiny hands. It’s looking up at the stars and dreaming of seeing them up close
one day. It’s listening to my family’s dinner-time debates. It’s the smile on a
stranger’s face, the smell of rain, the ripple of a wave, the wind across the sand.
It’s the first snow fall of winter, and the last storm of summer.
There’s a reason we’re called
human beings and not human doings. As human beings we have the ability to
think, move and communicate in a heightened way. We can cooperate, understand,
reconcile and love, that’s what sets us apart from most other species.
Don’t waste your human
talents by stressing about nominal things, or that which you cannot change. If
you take the time simply to be and appreciate the fruits of life, your stresses
will begin to dissolve, and you will be happier.
But don’t just seek happiness
when you’re down. Happiness shouldn’t be a goal, it should be a habit. Take the
focus off doing, and start being every day. Be loving, be grateful, be helpful,
and be a spectator to your own thoughts.
Allow yourself to be in the
moment, and appreciate the moment. Take the focus off everything you think you
need to do, and start being I promise you, happiness will follow.